Stability - What it Actually is to a Woman
𝑺𝒐, 𝑰 𝒈𝒐𝒕 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒔𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒄𝒖𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒆 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 “𝑾𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒏 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚“ 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒖𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒅𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐.
It was unfortunate that it was a fast conversation, because there are additional things besides money & income that cause & create “𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑦”
1) 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭.
If I know a man is always coming from a good place with me, at all times, it ties down trust & respect each time I experience it. I will shift from protecting myself, to becoming at ease.
𝟐) 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐧.
In the past, I’ve often been my significant other’s cheerleader & found there were no days off from the job for me. Me having a “Tanja day” would throw the day into shambles, because how dare I need support. I often found there was no patience for me being upset, stressed, or emotional. That, or they just did nothing or didn’t know what to do. I can think of 4 relationships off the top of my head where I would have gotten chastised & yelled at for hitting the curb with my tire the other day. For Real.
𝟑) 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐣𝐨𝐛 𝐨𝐧 𝐚 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐦.
It doesn’t matter how much you do, or don’t have…If you’re the type that will impulsively quit your job out of ego or on a whim….It’s going to cause distress & uncertainty in a relationship. It won’t feel stable to a female partner in any way. She might “get why”, but she’ll stop trusting you completely & eventually become resentful that she’s tied to you, because her life won’t feel stable.
𝟒) 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐝𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞 & 𝐚𝐦𝐛𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.
God gave women intuition & the ability to see potential! Lucky you! It means we can see one or two things about you & make a decent prediction of how the future “could” look based on current & recent behavior. She can decide if you’re stable & could create, future stability, based on your goals & mindset.
𝟓) 𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐥 & 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 $𝐡!t
Who doesn’t love a man with a plan? You got one? What have you charted out? What are you planning to accomplish? Is the tiny bit you have accomplished the result of you taking care of business? I’d be calm AF in the presence of that. That’s stable
So fellas, it ain’t just what you’ve got stockpiled or the tangible gifts you can give. Most of the time, stability is just being “a good man” AND handling what little you might or do have.
