5 Hidden Insecurities Men Have

5 𝑯𝒊𝒅𝒅𝒆𝒏 𝑰𝒏𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒖𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒎𝒆𝒏 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆.

I’m sharing this because, as women, sometimes we have absolutely NO idea we’re even able to hurt the men we love & adore, at all, because they’re so dang tough & silent. Here’s the truth:

𝟏). 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Many were taught not to show emotions or cry, so as adults they completely numb out in various ways. This actually also causes them to numb out joy they want to experience as well.

Personally, when I’ve seen men I love cry, it’s made me feel closer to them , & like I’ve seen “the real” them.

𝟐). 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐬 𝐈𝐧𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡

This is why they don’t ask for directions, because then everyone will know they “don’t know” & they feel like they’re supposed to ALWAYS know where to go & what to do.

For me, I wouldn’t choose to be around someone I thought wasn’t good enough for me. I’m typically into guys who know things I don’t, or make up for things I’m just not great at. I’m personally fine if he doesn’t know the answer. If you say you don’t know…it moves things along so we can figure it out.

𝟑). 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐝

Not pleasing your woman isn’t being “a man”. This goes right along with the “not asking for directions” right above.

In that way, I know I’m complicated & things change for me constantly. What worked yesterday, might not work today . It’s annoying. So, my expectation, personally, isn’t going to be that any man gets it right on the first try. It’s gonna take lots of tries AND THEN my body is going to change it up….again. Stress, sleep, hormones…change it all.

𝟒). 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲

Not tall enough, not broad enough, too much weight, not enough weight, too much hair, not enough hair, wrong jaw line…

I was kinda shocked about this one. I always thought this was a women’s issue. Personally, men can look amazing, but if you’re mean & not nice, it’s not going to matter to me. Looks can be entertaining for sure, but if I don’t enjoy spending time with you, what does it matter? I’ve also been every weight & body type…I can change it when I want to. It’s a body!

𝟓). 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫

They don’t particularly like when there are problems they don’t know how to solve, so generally speaking, they will avoid things like therapy & isolate themselves. Many will sabotage relationships, work, businesses etc due to this.

I watched a video of someone I know who’s a veteran. He was the first person I ever saw express being afraid & overwhelmed at being shot at while serving our country. My heart completely melted right then & I wanted to go destroy everyone that THOUGHT about firing a bullet in his direction. It also made me wake up to how real that experience had to be.

Insecurities sabotage the connections we crave. They are insidious, & don’t allow us to have the true connections we desire. Due to this fear, we don’t show our full selves & it prevents us from getting what we want in the first place.